How A Rebound Relationship Can Work In Your Favor

July 10, 2009 by Len · 1 Comment
Filed under: Relationships & Dating 

Rebound Relationship,rebound relationships,rebound relationship advice,what is a rebound relationship,rebound dating,reboundIf you have broken up with the love of your life and they are involved in a rebound relationship, how do you get them back?

A rebound relationship is one where your ex is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships serve to keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They’re used to help people move on after losing a real love.

This is the key to getting your ex back. He or she is in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.

It does not matter why he or she lost you. It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or theirs. It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off. What matters is that you have a real love who is willing to try anything to get over the hurt and because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

If your ex is in a rebound relationship, they will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.” If you were into philosophy, their new partner will probably be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.

The fact that they are actually focusing on the differences in your personalities is actually good for you for two reasons. Their attention is still focused on you even when they are with the new person. And, it gives you a chance to see what they are looking for.

If they’re with someone very different from you, it means that they are missing something in your relationship. You can use the time that they are with “rebound person” to improve yourself.

Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, as they spend time with the new person, they’ll start to see the flaws in them. After a month or so with “rebound person”, you’ll start to look pretty good.

That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to them right away. Let them develop the idea that they miss the good things in the relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend or girlfriend, but don’t do the chasing.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

* Don’t try to convince them that you are the love of their life. Let them discover this on their own.

* Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry. Once. But move on. They know the real reasons they love you.

* Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who they fell in love with.

* Don’t try to make them see that it wasn’t your fault. They will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made them invest energy in defending their position that it was your fault.

* Never, ever beg them to take you back.

When your ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, they are in a rebound relationship. You CAN make up with them and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that they are still in love with you.

Pulling For You,
Len

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How Can I Get Back Together With My Ex Girlfriend

June 26, 2009 by Len · 1 Comment
Filed under: Get Girlfriend Back 

get my ex back,get ex back,getting back your ex,how to get your ex girlfriend back,getting back with your exSometimes when a relationship comes to a sudden end, one or both parties may be in doubt that the end is really the end, and this is especially true when a relationship is new. Some men just cannot accept the fact that their girlfriend walked away. Therefore, they find themselves hoping she’ll still be there in the morning and that it was all a dream. Are you asking “How can I get back together with my ex girlfriend”? It is important that you create a plan if you really want to make this happen.

In order to get back with your ex girlfriend, there are several steps to take. Here are some tips that you should keep in mind when working through this process.

- There is always a second chance for everyone, so it’s not impossible for you to get back together with your ex girlfriend. But first, you should ask yourself some questions. Do you still love her? Do you really want her back? Why? Are you trying to get her back because you don’t want to be alone? or do you want to get back together just to prove you shouldn’t have been dumped? If you are looking to get back with your ex for reasons other than love, you may be playing a dangerous game that would be better off avoided.

- Do not appear desperate or needy if your priority is “how can I get back together with my ex girlfriend?” Although you may feel desperate, and you may really, really want her back, you must control your emotions, keeping them to yourself. If you cannot control your emotions it may be best to talk to a friend or family member so you can cry your heart out where she cannot see. Do not beg or cry in front of your girlfriend and absolutely do not stalk her.

- Learn how to control your feelings, forget about self pity and instead work on the positive aspects of working things through with your ex. If you appear too needy, or if you act too desperate, she may end up avoiding you even more.

- Keep the communication lines with your ex open. She may have ended the relationship, but you need to make her feel like communication lines are open and that you can and want to be civil. You do not have to be the one initiating every conversation, but you should be willing to say hello and have a conversation occasionally with her, keeping in touch casually.

- Above all else, figure out what went wrong with the relationship. There must have been a problem that led to her ending the relationship, so find out what the problem was if you want to get back together with your her. Find out what caused the arguments, which of her needs weren’t being met, and work on rectifying those issues.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren’t my original ideas. I turned to T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called “The Magic Of Making Up“. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

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Sign up for our Relationship Rescue Report below and I’ll send you an action plan that you can begin to use right away to get your ex back. Then we’ll follow up with you each week or so offering additional tips and encouragement which we are confident will lead to the restoration of your broken relationship. Saving a relationship couldn’t be easier!

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How To Get My Ex back If He Wants Some Space

June 26, 2009 by Len · 1 Comment
Filed under: Get Boyfriend Back 

How to get ex back,get my ex back,get ex back,how to get ex back,how to get my ex boyfriend back,get my boyfriend backAlmost everyone has experienced a terrific relationship in their life, and then suddenly everything which seemed so perfect is broken off because your boyfriend wants space. There are many different reasons why a boyfriend may suddenly need space, including family problems, insecurities, or a fear of commitment just to name a few. Here are some answers to the age old “how to get my ex back” question if your ex boyfriend needs more space.

- Do not lose your pride, or to allow him to get the best of you – Even though you are still in love with him. It may be ideal to play a little bit hard to get at first, in order to show him that yes, it was his loss and not yours.

- If you feel like your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you, then it may be beneficial for you to strike up a conversation with him. Keep communication to a minimum in order to keep the level of drama to a minimum. Short text messages, brief phone calls and online conversations in passing are all great ways to remind him how much he wants to be a part of your life without overwhelming him with your presence when he may actually want and need space.

- Eventually he will begin to show a renewed interest in you again if all goes well, and this will give you the chance to begin to reminisce with him. Keep in mind that you should focus only on the good memories associated with your relationship in the past. While rekindling a relationship with your ex boyfriend, you are going to want to stay away from the bad & negative experiences in case they conjure bad feelings and undo your hard work.

- If your boyfriend is not responding to your slow and subtle advances, you need to face it for what it is. Either he just really is not interested in you right now, or he really does just need space and you should give it to him. But if on the other hand he seems to be interested in you more than before, or is slowly warming up to you again, then you should continue gradually advancing on him to rekindle the relationship.

- If your ex boyfriend is giving you the right signals, you can try to open your heart up to him. Let him know how you feel, but DO NOT look desperate or needy in the process. If your ex is showing you that he is thinking about rekindling things, then it would be healthy to be open with him. But if his signals are pointing in the other direction, it may be wiser to step back and let things happen more naturally.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren’t my original ideas. I turned to T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called “The Magic Of Making Up“. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

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So what should you do Now?

Sign up for our Relationship Rescue Report below and I’ll send you an action plan that you can begin to use right away to get your ex back.  Then we’ll follow up with you each week or so offering additional tips and encouragement which we are confident will lead to the restoration of your broken relationship.  Saving a relationship couldn’t be easier!

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