In reality, there are a few relationships that are unworthy of saving. If you and your wife spent more time fighting than you did doing something good and fun, then perhaps you should consider moving on. If they were physically or verbally abusive, it probably wasn’t a healthy relationship. If they were mentally unstable, you probably are better off without them. If the relationship overall was a good one, and they weren’t abusive, and they were of sound mind, the following should help you and your wife get back together.

Pestering and pushing your wife isn’t a good idea. If you try to constantly get in touch with her whether its by phone, email, text message, or stalking her you’re going to do more harm than good. They will see this as a sign of desperation. This could actually push her further away rather than bring her closer to you.

Don’t argue, beg, or plead with your wife about your past relationship. It’s easy when you and your mind are all alone. Your mind manifests all sorts of “wrongs” that you may have done. Even when your wife broke up with you she may have given you reasons why. Now, you’re probably beating yourself up over them. You probably wish you had never done those things. The past is the past. This is the present.

If you get it in your mind that the relationship is currently over. You can’t go back in time, though you probably wish you could. Concentrate on what is going on now. The only thing worse than obsessively contacting your wife is to beg or plead with her. Making promises about how you’ll change, etc…, won’t help you and your wife get back together at all.

If you back off, give her some time, and live your life, you’ll be doing yourself a big favor in more ways than one. You’ll probably become more desirable to your wife because you’re allowing her to think about you and miss you. You’ll also be helping yourself to live a happier, more fulfilling life too.