How A Rebound Relationship Can Work In Your Favor

Len — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:04:26 +0000

If you have broken up with the love of your life and they are involved in a rebound relationship, how do you get them back?

A rebound relationship is one where your ex is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships serve to keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They’re used to help people move on after losing a real love.

This is the key to getting your ex back. He or she is in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.

It does not matter why he or she lost you. It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or theirs. It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off. What matters is that you have a real love who is willing to try anything to get over the hurt and because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

If your ex is in a rebound relationship, they will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.” If you were into philosophy, their new partner will probably be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.

The fact that they are actually focusing on the differences in your personalities is actually good for you for two reasons. Their attention is still focused on you even when they are with the new person. And, it gives you a chance to see what they are looking for.

If they’re with someone very different from you, it means that they are missing something in your relationship. You can use the time that they are with “rebound person” to improve yourself.

Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, as they spend time with the new person, they’ll start to see the flaws in them. After a month or so with “rebound person”, you’ll start to look pretty good.

That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to them right away. Let them develop the idea that they miss the good things in the relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend or girlfriend, but don’t do the chasing.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

* Don’t try to convince them that you are the love of their life. Let them discover this on their own.

* Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry. Once. But move on. They know the real reasons they love you.

* Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who they fell in love with.

* Don’t try to make them see that it wasn’t your fault. They will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made them invest energy in defending their position that it was your fault.

* Never, ever beg them to take you back.

When your ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, they are in a rebound relationship. You CAN make up with them and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that they are still in love with you.

Pulling For You,
Len

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